Recognize that you don’t have to follow your biological imperatives

Hawk on poleIt’s important to recognize and understand our biological impulses and then choose to follow them…or not! Our body has biological imperatives that were necessary for survival in earlier times but that are no longer useful. In fact, following these impulses can actually make us pretty unhappy. For instance, we are wired to gorge on food even when we are no longer hungry because when food was scarce it was beneficial to store as much fat as possible because it wasn’t known when we would eat again. These days in the West, where food is so readily available, this instinct no longer serves us and it certainly doesn’t lead to our happiness. Today we may want to eat an entire bag of chips but we won’t feel happy if we follow that impulse. Not only will we feel queasy from all the chips, we’ll also feel physically and psychically uncomfortable when we gain weight from overeating.

Our bodies are also very strongly programmed to ensure the survival of the species. To this end, men are biologically wired to want to have sex with a lot of women, while women are wired to compete with each other to win the “head man.” From a purely biological standpoint, the male of our species can ensure the survival of his lineage by impregnating as many women as possible. This maximizes the number of progeny he has and the statistical chance that some will survive and go on to produce children of their own. For the female, the way to maximize the survival of her children is to have a person who can provide food and protection for her children while she is partially incapacitated by pregnancy or taking care of small children. The more capable the man is at providing and protecting, the more likely her children are to survive, thus the incentive for women to get the most capable or “head man.”

Certainly, there is much more behind our decision making and actions than our biology. There is our mind and its will, as well as our soul and its longings. However, it is useful to recognize that there are hundreds of thousands of years of conditioning hardwired into our species to act out these imperatives. The biological impulses to overeat, for men to have sex unlimitedly and for women to compete with each other, can still arise in our default conditioned behavior. It’s important to know our bodies have these impulses so we understand where the drives are coming from and then we can choose to follow them or not. For many, simply the recognition of these drives begins the liberation from them. 

Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way. © 2013-2017 Sara Weston. A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

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Become financially independent

dsc_0101People make incredibly bad decisions that lead to a lot of unhappiness when they aren’t financially independent. They’ll marry someone they don’t love or stay with a partner or spouse they don’t like solely because they don’t have the financial wherewithal to do what they really want to do. When you are financially independent and are not beholden to a parent, partner or spouse’s agenda or idea for your life, you are free to follow the choices that are appropriate for you, which is an amazingly freeing and happy feeling!

The foundation of financial independence is a good career, combined with the ability to budget and manage your money. You need to be able to support yourself in the style that keeps you from making a bad decision you wouldn’t make if money wasn’t an issue. So while some careers may be easier or more accessible, they may not provide the kind of income you need long-term and therefore won’t allow you to be as independent as when you choose a more lucrative career. However, having a solid income is not enough, you also need the ability to save and grow the money you make. If you don’t save any of your money, then you undermine your independence and quality of life in your retirement years.

I’m not pretending that if you aren’t already financially independent that you won’t have to make radical changes in your life, such as going back to school, starting your own company, living on a smaller budget or stop letting your partner or spouse handle all the finances, but the payoff of not being dependent on anyone else financially is huge!

Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way. © 2013-2017 Sara Weston. A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

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Meditation Tip


When you catch yourself thinking while meditating, be it about what you’re going to eat for breakfast, what you need to do today or even about how much you’re thinking, simply bring your focus back to the chakra, yantra or mantra. Don’t get mad at yourself because that’s just another thought! Just ignore the thoughts and be patient with yourself. Our minds are used to thinking and traveling all over the map, so it takes some time and patience to learn how to meditate well. 

Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way. © 2013-2017 Sara Weston. A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

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Core Practice: Keep Your Mind Quiet


Our incessant internal dialogue—all of the strategizing, defending, regurgitating and worrying that we do—covers our true nature. When you stop thought, you directly experience that you are made of light, Consciousness, God (you choose your favorite word).

Keeping the mind quiet won’t make you unconscious or an idiot. Rather you become wiser as you begin to see the vast wisdom that is at your core. You’ll find that you begin to understand things without having to think them through and that you have access to greater knowledge that isn’t available to you when your mind is a cyclone of thoughts and concerns.

But keeping your mind quiet is hard to do in our digital, socially-networked world, where we are constantly bombarded with information and never out of reach from…anyone! How do you do it? The answer is simple—you meditate. For instruction on how to meditate, download the free eBook on How to Meditate.

Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way. © 2013-2017 Sara Weston. A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

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Core Practice: Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the process of watching what is passing through your mind and stopping the thoughts that are draining or unhealthy. Most things only need to be thought through once. The rest of the thinking, the mulling over and obsessing, is not only draining, it actually makes it harder to objectively see what is best. When you keep your mind quiet and don’t play your worries, schemes and dreams over and over again, you create space for inner knowledge to bubble up and be heard.

Mindfulness isn’t limited to stopping negative or repetitive thoughts, it also includes not holding conversations in your mind with people you know. A lot of people talk to other people in their minds, explaining their beliefs and defending their positions. Not only is this a waste of energy, again it prevents your mind from being still. When your mind is still you can more clearly see the pointers in the universe. The universe gives us all kinds of information, but you have to be still to see it. When your mind is going round and round defending your ego, you miss these pointers, not to mention the relaxation and brightness that comes from being still.

The good news is that after practicing mindfulness for a while it becomes automatic, so as negative or repetitive thoughts and inner conversations arise, you naturally stop them and redirect your mind to higher, calmer thoughts or no thoughts at all.

Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way available on and Amazon UKCAFR and DE or as an iPhone app. © 2013 Sara Weston. A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

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Interview with Mu—Author of “Advanced Path” Books

Hi All, I had the lovely opportunity to speak with Mu about her latest book in the “Advanced Path” series—Transcending the Advanced Path. These books are for seekers who are looking to move beyond intermediate practice into advanced practice. If this is something you are interested in doing, I highly encourage you to check out her books!

Sara: This is the third book in the “Advanced Path” series. Tell us a little bit about each book and how they’re different.

Mu: All three books are focused on moving beyond beginning or intermediate practice into advanced practice, where the intent to become spiritually liberated is constant and stronger than any other desire. This shift puts a stop to the endless techniques, strategies, and habits that prevent awakening.

The first book is a sweet collection of lyrical verses about the journey to initial awakening. Each poem is a touchstone for waking up. It emphasizes honesty, openness, and maturity on the spiritual path.

The second book, Walking the Advanced Path, goes deeper into what is required to become enlightened and how to do so with responsibility and grace. It is focused on spiritual sovereignty, avoiding common pitfalls, and describes the stages of awakening in detail.

The latest book, Transcending the Advanced Path, contains the most advanced teachings of all. It is a guide for awakening at the deepest and most subtle levels and a detailed exploration of the shift from realization to full enlightenment.

Sara: In the introduction of Transcending the Advanced Path, you mention that only rare spiritual beings will be drawn to your latest book. If the audience is so limited, why did you write it?

Mu: Only the most sincere beings will truly want enlightenment. Most people will say they want to wake up, but if they’re honest, they just want to feel a little better or be part of a spiritual community. We are now in a unique time where more people are becoming serious about liberation, and they are starting to have awakening experiences. Advanced teachings are usually shared privately from teacher to student and are not always available in written form, especially in a concise guide. I wrote Transcending the Advanced Path for those people who are starting to wake up and want to make sense of their experiences, and particularly for those who want to do the deep work of integrating their realizations into fully embodied enlightenment. It will have been worth writing if this book helps even one person.

Sara: The subtitle is “awakening beyond belief.” What does that mean?

Mu: Awakening beyond belief is to awaken beyond limitation and the mind’s ideas of what enlightenment is or should be. The beliefs we have affect our experiences, limit what we perceive, and create false boundaries for what’s possible. Enlightenment is a radical process that liberates us from the blueprints of this (or any) world. We have to get beyond the perceived structures of being and start operating on a totally different wavelength. To do that, we have to challenge every single thought, belief, story, or restriction that keeps us from Truth.

Awakening beyond belief is also a colloquialism for a profound realization that really can’t be described or understood. It’s pointing to the absolute joy and relief of finally letting go into the field of pure consciousness and the ecstasy of silence.

Sara: In the book, you mention that what worked before liberation will often not work after you wake up. Can you give an example?

Mu: Karma and free will are a great example of this. To wake up, we must go against the flow of our current karmas by using free will to choose to become enlightened. This is a radical act to go against the dream world that most people live in and decide to become free. But to become enlightened, all polarities must be resolved, including the duality of karma and free will. It’s quite a paradox! In the book, I describe how to resolve this duality and break free of personal karma. Ultimately, within enlightenment, there is no longer the concept of karma or free will, and freedom is surrendered to being in the flow of the dharma.

Sara: You talk about perception quite a bit and the journey to breaking the prism of perception. Nirvikalpa samadhi, the doorway to liberation, breaks this prism. But you describe that process as the evolution to full enlightenment.

Mu: First of all, I make the distinction between liberation, or initial awakening, and the integration of realization as fully embodied enlightenment. It’s my way of pointing to enlightenment as a journey that happens in stages and matures as it deepens and becomes more complete.

As you said, nirvikalpa samadhi is the doorway to liberation, and it creates a permanent break from the world of illusion. It shatters the prism of perception—during the experience of samadhi. But then we come out of samadhi, and the ego and our patterns immediately try to recreate themselves. It’s never the same. We never go back to how we were exactly. But becoming enlightened happens after countless hours in samadhi until we no longer go into or come out of it. There are years of being reconfigured energetically, shedding old patterns, and letting go at the most subtle levels. It is a process of expanding perception until we finally move beyond perception to a direct experience of Reality. When I talk about breaking the prism of perception, I’m talking about a permanent shattering of perception to exist as pure awareness, as unmodified Light.

Sara: You outline an approach for removing patterns that cause us to react on autopilot, but you also caution against trying to “fix” or “perfect” yourself. Where is the balance between these two approaches?

Mu: That’s a great question! Many people get trapped in a never-ending loop of trying to fix all of their perceived limitations and achieve some fictional version of perfection. This is often the work of ego and is a distraction from the intention to become enlightened. You do not have to “perfect” yourself to wake up!

In advanced practice, a tremendous amount of change comes from spending time in silence and Light. Spiritual energy is very powerful and will clear away many rough edges without any special effort on your part.

That said, any attitudes, beliefs, or behaviors that block the flow of Light must be addressed directly and quickly. For example, the first two books discuss the trap of spiritual mastery. This is a spiritual superiority complex based in the false belief that someone is better than everyone else because they are more evolved or knowledgeable. This type of arrogance will cause you to stagnate and prevent further spiritual evolution. It’s important to actively clear these types of patterns to return to a condition of openness and receptivity to Light.

Sara: Do you have any advice for someone who wants to become enlightened?

Mu: I’ve already mentioned this, but I really want to reinforce that becoming enlightened is a choice. It doesn’t happen by accident. Decide if you are really committed to awakening, and if you are, keep choosing Truth every moment of every day as your most important priority.

The “Advanced Path” books are available on Amazon (click on the images below). For more information on Mu and the books, visit

Small Happiness Tip & App Sale Tie-in

dsc_0101Keep on hand at all times great audio books, podcasts, music, books or magazines. It’s helpful to have something entertaining to do when you are waiting in line at the DMV or at the doctor’s office or when you’re caught in traffic or on the subway. There are so many draining situations that become the opposite when you have something interesting to occupy your mind. (Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way)

The How To Be Happy NOW app is a great aid for this tip. When you’re in some draining or boring situation, you can pull out your phone and read through the app. Each tip is imbued with light and will give you a refreshing burst of bright energy (for reals 🙂!), which is especially helpful in heavy environments.

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