Core Practice: Be Honest With Yourself

Additional Tips2Honesty with yourself is essential to being happy. You have to check that what you are doing in your life is working for you. Sometimes we have such a strong idea of how our life should be and what will make us happy, that we don’t want to face that these ideas aren’t right for us anymore. We may have grown out of them or they may have never been our ideas and dreams in the first place, but instead were imposed by family or society and accepted by us as ours. Other times we have invested so much time and energy to get our life to where it is, that we don’t want to face the fact that it is no longer working. When we honestly recognize that something is no longer working, then from this place of recognition we can begin to change it.

Being honest about what is working applies to all aspects of your life, big and small—whether it’s recognizing that you’re bored with your job and you need to mix it up, or that constantly checking your phone diffuses your focus and you need to dial it down. When you change what is not working in your life, despite past ideas of what you think will make you happy, you will be a happier person.

Note that you don’t have to necessarily share or discuss your internal honesty with others. In fact, if we had to share all our internal insights with others, we’d never be completely honest with ourselves! What matters most is that you are simply honest with yourself.

© 2013-2023 Sara Weston. Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way, available on Amazon.com or Amazon UKCA, FR , IT, ES and DE. A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

Core Practice: Be Honest With Yourself

Additional Tips2Honesty with yourself is essential to being happy. You have to check that what you are doing in your life is working for you. Sometimes we have such a strong idea of how our life should be and what will make us happy, that we don’t want to face that these ideas aren’t right for us anymore. We may have grown out of them or they may have never been our ideas and dreams in the first place, but instead were imposed by family or society and accepted by us as ours. Other times we have invested so much time and energy to get our life to where it is, that we don’t want to face the fact that it is no longer working. When we honestly recognize that something is no longer working, then from this place of recognition we can begin to change it.

Being honest about what is working applies to all aspects of your life, big and small—whether it’s recognizing that you’re bored with your job and you need to mix it up, or that constantly checking your phone diffuses your focus and you need to dial it down. When you change what is not working in your life, despite past ideas of what you think will make you happy, you will be a happier person.

Note that you don’t have to necessarily share or discuss your internal honesty with others. In fact, if we had to share all our internal insights with others, we’d never be completely honest with ourselves! What matters most is that you are simply honest with yourself.

© 2013-2022 Sara Weston. Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way, available on Amazon.com or Amazon UKCA, FR , IT, ES and DE. A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

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Core Practice: Be Honest With Yourself

Additional Tips2Honesty with yourself is essential to being happy. You have to check that what you are doing in your life is working for you. Sometimes we have such a strong idea of how our life should be and what will make us happy, that we don’t want to face that these ideas aren’t right for us anymore. We may have grown out of them or they may have never been our ideas and dreams in the first place, but instead were imposed by family or society and accepted by us as ours. Other times we have invested so much time and energy to get our life to where it is, that we don’t want to face the fact that it is no longer working. When we honestly recognize that something is no longer working, then from this place of recognition we can begin to change it.

Being honest about what is working applies to all aspects of your life, big and small—whether it’s recognizing that you’re bored with your job and you need to mix it up, or that constantly checking your phone diffuses your focus and you need to dial it down. When you change what is not working in your life, despite past ideas of what you think will make you happy, you will be a happier person.

Note that you don’t have to necessarily share or discuss your internal honesty with others. In fact, if we had to share all our internal insights with others, we’d never be completely honest with ourselves! What matters most is that you are simply honest with yourself.

© 2013-2022 Sara Weston. Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way, available on Amazon.com or Amazon UKCA, FR , IT, ES and DE. A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

Download the How to Be Happy NOW app

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Core Practice: Be Honest With Yourself

Additional Tips2Honesty with yourself is essential to being happy. You have to check that what you are doing in your life is working for you. Sometimes we have such a strong idea of how our life should be and what will make us happy, that we don’t want to face that these ideas aren’t right for us anymore. We may have grown out of them or they may have never been our ideas and dreams in the first place, but instead were imposed by family or society and accepted by us as ours. Other times we have invested so much time and energy to get our life to where it is, that we don’t want to face the fact that it is no longer working. When we honestly recognize that something is no longer working, then from this place of recognition we can begin to change it.

Being honest about what is working applies to all aspects of your life, big and small—whether it’s recognizing that you’re bored with your job and you need to mix it up, or that constantly checking your phone diffuses your focus and you need to dial it down. When you change what is not working in your life, despite past ideas of what you think will make you happy, you will be a happier person.

Note that you don’t have to necessarily share or discuss your internal honesty with others. In fact, if we had to share all our internal insights with others, we’d never be completely honest with ourselves! What matters most is that you are simply honest with yourself.

© 2013-2021 Sara Weston. Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way, available on Amazon.com or Amazon UKCA, FR , IT, ES and DE. A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

Download the How to Be Happy NOW app

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Core Practice: Be Honest With Yourself

Additional Tips2Honesty with yourself is essential to being happy. You have to check that what you are doing in your life is working for you. Sometimes we have such a strong idea of how our life should be and what will make us happy, that we don’t want to face that these ideas aren’t right for us anymore. We may have grown out of them or they may have never been our ideas and dreams in the first place, but instead were imposed by family or society and accepted by us as ours. Other times we have invested so much time and energy to get our life to where it is, that we don’t want to face the fact that it is no longer working. When we honestly recognize that something is no longer working, then from this place of recognition we can begin to change it.

Being honest about what is working applies to all aspects of your life, big and small—whether it’s recognizing that you’re bored with your job and you need to mix it up, or that constantly checking your phone diffuses your focus and you need to dial it down. When you change what is not working in your life, despite past ideas of what you think will make you happy, you will be a happier person.

Note that you don’t have to necessarily share or discuss your internal honesty with others. In fact, if we had to share all our internal insights with others, we’d never be completely honest with ourselves! What matters most is that you are simply honest with yourself.

© 2013-2021 Sara Weston. Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way, available on Amazon.com or Amazon UKCA, FR , IT, ES and DE. A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

Download the How to Be Happy NOW app

Download on the App Store

Core Practice: Be Honest With Yourself

Additional Tips2Honesty with yourself is essential to being happy. You have to check that what you are doing in your life is working for you. Sometimes we have such a strong idea of how our life should be and what will make us happy, that we don’t want to face that these ideas aren’t right for us anymore. We may have grown out of them or they may have never been our ideas and dreams in the first place, but instead were imposed by family or society and accepted by us as ours. Other times we have invested so much time and energy to get our life to where it is, that we don’t want to face the fact that it is no longer working. When we honestly recognize that something is no longer working, then from this place of recognition we can begin to change it.

Being honest about what is working applies to all aspects of your life, big and small—whether it’s recognizing that you’re bored with your job and you need to mix it up, or that constantly checking your phone diffuses your focus and you need to dial it down. When you change what is not working in your life, despite past ideas of what you think will make you happy, you will be a happier person.

Note that you don’t have to necessarily share or discuss your internal honesty with others. In fact, if we had to share all our internal insights with others, we’d never be completely honest with ourselves! What matters most is that you are simply honest with yourself.

© 2013-2020 Sara Weston. Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way, available on Amazon.com or Amazon UKCA, FR , IT, ES and DE. A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

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Interview with Mu—Author of “Advanced Path” Books

Hi All, I had the lovely opportunity to speak with Mu about her latest book in the “Advanced Path” series—Transcending the Advanced Path. These books are for seekers who are looking to move beyond intermediate practice into advanced practice. If this is something you are interested in doing, I highly encourage you to check out her books!

Sara: This is the third book in the “Advanced Path” series. Tell us a little bit about each book and how they’re different.

Mu: All three books are focused on moving beyond beginning or intermediate practice into advanced practice, where the intent to become spiritually liberated is constant and stronger than any other desire. This shift puts a stop to the endless techniques, strategies, and habits that prevent awakening.

The first book is a sweet collection of lyrical verses about the journey to initial awakening. Each poem is a touchstone for waking up. It emphasizes honesty, openness, and maturity on the spiritual path.

The second book, Walking the Advanced Path, goes deeper into what is required to become enlightened and how to do so with responsibility and grace. It is focused on spiritual sovereignty, avoiding common pitfalls, and describes the stages of awakening in detail.

The latest book, Transcending the Advanced Path, contains the most advanced teachings of all. It is a guide for awakening at the deepest and most subtle levels and a detailed exploration of the shift from realization to full enlightenment.

Sara: In the introduction of Transcending the Advanced Path, you mention that only rare spiritual beings will be drawn to your latest book. If the audience is so limited, why did you write it?

Mu: Only the most sincere beings will truly want enlightenment. Most people will say they want to wake up, but if they’re honest, they just want to feel a little better or be part of a spiritual community. We are now in a unique time where more people are becoming serious about liberation, and they are starting to have awakening experiences. Advanced teachings are usually shared privately from teacher to student and are not always available in written form, especially in a concise guide. I wrote Transcending the Advanced Path for those people who are starting to wake up and want to make sense of their experiences, and particularly for those who want to do the deep work of integrating their realizations into fully embodied enlightenment. It will have been worth writing if this book helps even one person.

Sara: The subtitle is “awakening beyond belief.” What does that mean?

Mu: Awakening beyond belief is to awaken beyond limitation and the mind’s ideas of what enlightenment is or should be. The beliefs we have affect our experiences, limit what we perceive, and create false boundaries for what’s possible. Enlightenment is a radical process that liberates us from the blueprints of this (or any) world. We have to get beyond the perceived structures of being and start operating on a totally different wavelength. To do that, we have to challenge every single thought, belief, story, or restriction that keeps us from Truth.

Awakening beyond belief is also a colloquialism for a profound realization that really can’t be described or understood. It’s pointing to the absolute joy and relief of finally letting go into the field of pure consciousness and the ecstasy of silence.

Sara: In the book, you mention that what worked before liberation will often not work after you wake up. Can you give an example?

Mu: Karma and free will are a great example of this. To wake up, we must go against the flow of our current karmas by using free will to choose to become enlightened. This is a radical act to go against the dream world that most people live in and decide to become free. But to become enlightened, all polarities must be resolved, including the duality of karma and free will. It’s quite a paradox! In the book, I describe how to resolve this duality and break free of personal karma. Ultimately, within enlightenment, there is no longer the concept of karma or free will, and freedom is surrendered to being in the flow of the dharma.

Sara: You talk about perception quite a bit and the journey to breaking the prism of perception. Nirvikalpa samadhi, the doorway to liberation, breaks this prism. But you describe that process as the evolution to full enlightenment.

Mu: First of all, I make the distinction between liberation, or initial awakening, and the integration of realization as fully embodied enlightenment. It’s my way of pointing to enlightenment as a journey that happens in stages and matures as it deepens and becomes more complete.

As you said, nirvikalpa samadhi is the doorway to liberation, and it creates a permanent break from the world of illusion. It shatters the prism of perception—during the experience of samadhi. But then we come out of samadhi, and the ego and our patterns immediately try to recreate themselves. It’s never the same. We never go back to how we were exactly. But becoming enlightened happens after countless hours in samadhi until we no longer go into or come out of it. There are years of being reconfigured energetically, shedding old patterns, and letting go at the most subtle levels. It is a process of expanding perception until we finally move beyond perception to a direct experience of Reality. When I talk about breaking the prism of perception, I’m talking about a permanent shattering of perception to exist as pure awareness, as unmodified Light.

Sara: You outline an approach for removing patterns that cause us to react on autopilot, but you also caution against trying to “fix” or “perfect” yourself. Where is the balance between these two approaches?

Mu: That’s a great question! Many people get trapped in a never-ending loop of trying to fix all of their perceived limitations and achieve some fictional version of perfection. This is often the work of ego and is a distraction from the intention to become enlightened. You do not have to “perfect” yourself to wake up!

In advanced practice, a tremendous amount of change comes from spending time in silence and Light. Spiritual energy is very powerful and will clear away many rough edges without any special effort on your part.

That said, any attitudes, beliefs, or behaviors that block the flow of Light must be addressed directly and quickly. For example, the first two books discuss the trap of spiritual mastery. This is a spiritual superiority complex based in the false belief that someone is better than everyone else because they are more evolved or knowledgeable. This type of arrogance will cause you to stagnate and prevent further spiritual evolution. It’s important to actively clear these types of patterns to return to a condition of openness and receptivity to Light.

Sara: Do you have any advice for someone who wants to become enlightened?

Mu: I’ve already mentioned this, but I really want to reinforce that becoming enlightened is a choice. It doesn’t happen by accident. Decide if you are really committed to awakening, and if you are, keep choosing Truth every moment of every day as your most important priority.

The “Advanced Path” books are available on Amazon (click on the images below). For more information on Mu and the books, visit advancedpathbook.com.

Don’t Follow Your Heart?

Many people interpret the expression “Follow your heart” to mean “Do whatever you feel like doing.”  But what following your heart truly means is:

•  NOT following society’s ideas of what you should do (duh)

•  NOT following other people’s ideas for you—including parents, friends and colleagues (medium-duh)

•  NOT following what your mind tells you (wait, really?)

Yes, really. Your mind has a lot of ideas about what you should do to follow your heart, but the mind doesn’t necessarily know what’s best for you.

Instead, following your heart means following your soul, which is your true heart. The deepest part of yourself is enlightened, is enlightenment itself and is super-duper wise. If you follow what your soul wants you’ll always be happy. If you follow other people’s ideas or your mind’s ideas of what you should do with your life, you will always feel off, not quite right and not quite at ease, even if you are outwardly successful. You will feel an undertone of depression or angst when you are not following your dharma, i.e., that which is spiritually correct for you.

So the challenge is how do you know what your soul wants? It’s simple, you meditate. You take time out daily to stop thought so you can feel your true heart. That’s all you have to do—why make it more complicated? A free guide on how to meditate can be found here.

© 2016 Sara Weston. Sara is the author of the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way, available on Amazon.com and Amazon UKCAFR and DEA FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

You Are Not Your Mind

Your mind is an amazing and essential tool, but it is not who you truly are. All the thoughts and ideas that run through your mind feel very close, like “you,” so it can certainly feel like your mind defines who you are—but if you put your mind on “Pause” for a moment and stop your thoughts, you will find that there is still a presence there. You find that you are still there even when your mind is not thinking.

What is that presence that is still there when the mind is silent? I can tell you that it is your true self, the light and consciousness that make up everything and everyone. But it’s not very transformative to read that. What’s powerful is to experience that eternality for yourself! What’s transformative is to start meditating and slowing down the mind so you can find out for yourself that who you truly are is beyond the mind and the body, is eternal and is good. If you need meditation instruction, check out the free eBook on How to Meditate.

© 2014 Sara Weston. Sara is the author of he book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way, available on AmazonAmazon UK and Amazon DEA FREE excerpt of the book is available here.

Core Practice: Be Honest With Yourself

Additional Tips2Honesty with yourself is essential to being happy. You have to check that what you are doing in your life is working for you. Sometimes we have such a strong idea of how our life should be and what will make us happy that we don’t want to face that these ideas aren’t right for us anymore. We may have grown out of them or they may have never been our ideas and dreams in the first place, but instead were imposed by family or society and accepted by us as ours. Other times we have invested so much time and energy to get our life to where it is, that we don’t want to face the fact that it is no longer working. When we honestly recognize that something is no longer working, then from this place of recognition we can begin to change it.

Being honest about what is working applies to all aspects of your life, big and small—whether it’s recognizing that you’re bored with your job and you need to mix it up, or that constantly checking your phone diffuses your focus and you need to dial it down. When you recognize what is not working in your life and change it, despite past ideas of what you think will make you happy, you will be a happier person.

Note that you don’t have to necessarily share or discuss your internal honesty with others. In fact, if we had to share all our internal insights with others, we’d never be completely honest with ourselves! What matters most is that you are simply honest with yourself.

Excerpted from the book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way, available on AmazonAmazon UK and Amazon DE. © 2013 – 2014 Sara Weston.  A FREE excerpt of the book is available here.