When people are rude or mean to you, it’s usually not personal, but instead a reflection of their own mind state

7Core PageWhen the cashier at the grocery store is rude to you or someone at work tries to belittle your work, most times their behavior has nothing to do with you, but instead is a reflection of their own state of mind. That cashier is rude to everyone and that coworker tries to make everyone feel small. It helps to know this so we don’t take it personally and let it affect our mood.

Happiness tip excerpted from the new book How to Be Happy NOW…Even if Things Aren’t Going Your Way. © 2013 Sara Weston

3 thoughts on “When people are rude or mean to you, it’s usually not personal, but instead a reflection of their own mind state

  1. Thanks for this reminder. I once had a manager, who used to put me down as soon as I answered a question enthusiastically. For instance he would ask, “What kind of job would you do with task X?”, to which I would reply, “an excellent job”. His immediate response would then be something like, “Now that’s taking it a bit far”. I felt it was so stupid, him undermining my eagerness to strive for excellence. When I realised he acted that way with everyone, I stopped taking it personally. His need to put others down came from some deep-rooted place inside of him. It had nothing to do with me!

  2. Pingback: Cut people some slack – How to Be Happy NOW

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